Getting Your Ex Back - Do's and Don'ts That Will Definitely Affect Your Efforts To Get Them Back!


By GUEST WRITER Ilona Benes

  Ilona Benes  

 

   The hints and tips provided here are aimed at people just like you - people who desperately want to reunite with their exes after a breakup, but haven't got a clue as to how to go about it. Read through these do's and don'ts - they are invaluable when you don't know how to get your ex back, especially if you don't know the right and wrong ways to do this.

What NOT to do when you are trying to get your ex back:

  • Don't let your ex see how desperate you are

  • Don't try burying your ex under a heap of expensive gifts

  • Don't try making your ex jealous in an attempt to get your ex back

  • Don'trefuse to accept that you were also to blame for the breakup

  • Don't bad-mouth your ex to your friends and family

  • Don't try to rush the process to get your ex back


   All of the above points should be avoided at all costs when you are trying to get your ex back. None of them will have any positive effect on your current relationship with your ex - use any of them, and all you will achieve is a bad situation that is made worse, and the very real possibility of losing your ex forever.

Things that you definitely should do went you want to try to get your ex back:

  • Do try to understand how your ex feels after the breakup

  • Do understand that there is a chance that you won't get your ex back

  • Do be yourself - the person your ex fell in love with in the first place

  • Do be patient - getting your ex back is a long, slow process

  • Do opt for a non-romantic setting when you first meet your ex - keep it neutral

  • Do be friendly and polite, but keep it casual

  • Do keep your behaviour and your emotions under control

  • Do apologize for making those mistakes during your relationship - this is a great stepping-stone to get your ex back!


   These hints and tips might seem pretty obvious to you, but the thing is, when you are getting over a relationship that has crumbled into nothing, you tend to forget how to do the simplest things in life. You cannot function properly, especially when it comes to trying to get your ex back. Your emotions are so raw and out of control, that you think with your heart and not with your head, and will most times do the wrong things. 

   Also, when you are so upset and cut up about the break up, you become impatient - you want things to be the way they were as soon as possible, so you do your utmost to speed things up. You end up pushing your ex into making a decision about your relationship, and your world falls apart yet again, when your ex avoids you like the plague, and you get a message via your friends, that he/she NEVER wants to see you again.

   Make sure that you do everything right trying to get your ex back - stick to the do's and don'ts - they've worked for thousands of couples around the world, and they'll likely work for you too!



Getting your ex back - Do's and Dont's