Things You Must And Must Not Do When You Are Trying to Get Your
By GUEST WRITER Ilona
A failed relationship is
devastating, to say the least, to the millions of people all over the world who have experienced it at least once
in their lives. Most of the time, they are left in a state of such shock, that they are incapable of functioning
properly, and more than likely do really stupid things to try to get their exes back.
If you are one of these many
people, and are going through a really hard time after a break up, then please read the following advice very
carefully, because it could be the deciding factor as to whether or not you succeed to get your ex back. The
first thing you have to realize is that getting back together after a breakup
is not a walk in the park - it is very tough, and the road you are facing right now
could be a very long and bumpy one.
To make that long road a little
shorter and slightly smoother, it will help a lot if you know the things that you should do, and the things that
you should avoid doing at all costs, to have a good chance to get your ex back.
Okay, so you had a terrible argument,
you said really bad things to each other, and finally decided to call the whole relationship off. You
are angry and hurt by what happened, but please understand that the argument you had is now history - it
is no good carrying all that anger around with you all the time - it will not help you to get your ex
back - take some time to simmer down so that you can think
Don't try going to the other extreme
and think that sending your ex loving messages, flowers, and gifts will make the whole situation go
away, because it won't. You have to remember that your ex is also hurt and angry after the relationship
failed, and any hint of romance from you will not be appreciated at this stage.
For this same reason, you should not
try to get your ex to admit that it was his or her doing that caused the relationship to end. Yes, it
could be possible that your ex was totally to blame for the break up, but now is not the time to try to
prove this. Also, if it was your ex that made the decision to end the relationship, don't even think of
arguing about it, but simply agree to his or her decision - this reaction has very often helped to get
an ex back.
Once both of you have had enough time
to cool down, you will have more than enough opportunities to talk about the break up - by that time
your ex will probably be more than willing to admit that he or she was wrong, and apologise for the
unhappiness he or she has caused you.
Hang on to your dignity after the
break up and don't, under any circumstances, show your ex how desperate you are to get back together again, by crying, begging and pleading with him or her. Going this route has many times resulted
in an ex, instead of thinking about reuniting again, deciding very firmly to get away altogether and
start a whole new life.
Using the good times you had in your
relationship to get your ex back will not work either - no matter how funny or romantic they were, they
will have no impact on your ex at this point in time, who is feeling nothing but utter resentment toward
you right now. Avoid the temptation to make your ex feel pity toward you too - this has on occasion
worked after some break ups, but more often than not that feeling only lasts for a short while, only to
have the couple breakup yet again.
Do the right thing in your situation, and leave your ex alone to deal with the
trauma of the break up in his or her own way, without your interference. Don't try using any under-handed
strategies, or make promises that you know you will not be able to keep. Instead, be patient and understanding,
and your success to get your ex back will be a lot more realistic.
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